Imbibe the virtues of sweetness & humility to become great#17

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SweetnessandHumility_17              Mohini_Didi                    April 17, 2026  

Om Shanti!

As we practice some values and virtues for a long time in life, they become powers. It should give us the ability and capacity to very clearly decide where one should get involved and where one should remain very detached.  Dadi Janki shared a story with us when she was in Pune. Some fight was going on one floor and she could hear some kind of screaming and all that. She was hearing it, but after a little while the police came and wanted to ask everyone about who saw what, and did anyone see them fighting? She said,”No.” She explained that she doesn’t have to be a witness in court for someone? She was not directly involved, but not even indirectly  involved.

We had a similar situation in New York when we arrived there 50 years ago. There was a lot of violence, and in the beginning, we could not afford much, so we rented an apartment. Downstairs was a big general store. So, a lot of things used to happen, and when the police came, because the atmosphere of the center was so powerful, they asked, “Did you hear gunshots?” We said, “No, because we meditate, we don’t hear these things.”

So these days especially, we have to be very careful. Baba is saying a lot about sweetness and humility, but humility does not mean that you allow people to do anything to you. I am humble, but you cannot cross your boundaries; you must maintain your Maryadas (limits), maintain your sweetness and humility. Sometimes there are waves of situations. You get provoked, in the sense that the atmosphere is such that you start thinking the same way, “Everyone is doing it, let me do it.” It’s not because everyone is doing something that makes it right. So, you have to be very sensible.  Many times people say, “Everyone does it.” Each one has to be responsible for one’s own actions. If someone asks you to do something that is not right, and after doing it you say, “I did it because this one said it.” The one who does the action gets the punishment, not the one who told you. Even if somebody is saying it or paying for it, you did the action. We have to be very careful about what we speak, what we do, and what kind of company we keep. Be very focused on all that, so that whatever is the scene of drama, we do not become part of that. Be firm and strong, but not rude. Some are firm and strong but also they are very rough. That should not be the nature. Baba used to say mothers have the weakness of attachment, brothers have the weakness of ego and anger. So pay attention, because sometimes it is not only your own sanskars, but also the influence.

That is why Baba says to notice your sanskars and transform your nature. Don’t make excuses like, “I did it because I have the habit.” There is no excuse, you won’t be pardoned for that. One is to be deceived by one’s own self. Dadi Janki always said, “First, you are deceived by your own sanskars, and then you are deceived by others. If you are not deceived by your own sanskars, others cannot deceive you. First we deceive ourselves, then we get deceived by others.

Dadi Janki used to tell us that any weakness, any sanskar, any habit if it is there, you will have to pay for that. That is why Baba keeps saying, “Check, change, transform.”

Baba says that every word of yours should be great. Any thought in your mind about anyone else should be sweet. If somebody said something bad to me, I say that person needs more good wishes. If I remain good, then he will not hurt anyone else. Because he might experience something, but because this is bad, I cannot give good wishes, I need to give more to that person, because that could change his mind or heart.

So, we have to be careful because everyone is part of the family. Baba says that let your nature be that of uplifting everyone, a nature of sweetness, and a nature of humility. Never say, “My nature is like that,” “My nature is to speak loudly, to scream, to be forceful.” To be influenced by your nature is also Maya. Now become the conqueror of Maya. Transform any nature, whether arrogance or disheartened. Be careful of jealousy or being harsh, because something comes out and then the other person reacts or gets influenced. So, we have to be very careful these days. Don’t allow your nature to control you. Baba says your nature should be in soul-consciousness. There is a lot of knowledge, so practice applying that knowledge, and becoming sensible in what you decide. Throughout the day, whenever you get a few minutes, just practice: my original qualities and my eternal qualities. Anyway, we are one big family. With Avyakti Parivar we are together every day. Our good wishes for your spiritual journey. Continue to pay attention to the Avyakti signal. I was talking to Raju Bhai yesterday, as we are preparing something for tapasya, and how important it is to have silence. Silence doesn’t mean you are still thinking. Silence is not only of words, but of the mind. There is a common practice in India, I saw it in Kashmir—there are walnut and almond trees, and one season they don’t plant, and the next season they plant. Why? Because they said if you leave the land empty, the fertility improves, and when you plant again, the quality is better.  The same is with our thinking. If you keep thinking continuously, the quality is not there. If you pause meaning silence and then think, there will be clear and powerful thoughts. Thoughts are the seed of everything. Actions are also seeds, but before that, thought is the seed. So, everyone should have elevated thoughts, great thoughts for themselves and for others.

Om Shanti